Tag: Social Anxiety

  • Social Anxiety Disorder in Education

    By Conner Keys, Content Team Academic

    Social anxiety disorder (SAD) is a fairly common anxiety disorder that is characterised by feelings of intense anxiety and fear. The NHS describes it as ‘a long-term and overwhelming fear of social situations’ (NHS, 2023). Research has shown that SAD has a lifetime prevalence of 12.1% (Kessler, et al., 2005).

    Symptoms

    There is no one cause of social anxiety. It is a very personal disorder, and various factors can contribute to its development. Such factors may include:

    • Emotional, physical, or other kinds of abuse,
    • Genetics,
    • Hormones,
    • Negative interactions with peers and/or family,
    • Social demands,
    • Trauma.

    Due to these potential causes, social anxiety can be a symptom of other psychological disorders, e.g., PTSD, major depression, and agoraphobia.

    Typically, SAD develops in childhood and teenage years. Research found that among those seeking treatment, ‘the median age of onset is in the early to mid-teens’ (National Collaborating Centre for Mental Health, 2013). However, this isn’t to say that SAD can’t still emerge later in life.

    Effects

    Although people with this disorder describe physical symptoms such as nausea/vomiting, dizziness, and trouble breathing, alongside the more well-known emotional symptoms, the disorder is often dismissed as mere ‘shyness’. This, however, is clearly not the case: SAD can be extremely distressing. One individual admitted that ‘the thought of leaving the house most days fills me with dread and nausea’, (Taryn, 2023). Due to such symptoms, Social Anxiety Disorder can make daily tasks seem impossible and inconceivable, for example, going to the shops. This is a task many of us don’t think too much about, however, someone with SAD may not be able to complete this action, as they fear things such as how other shoppers may perceive them, and having to talk to the cashier. Additionally, it is likely for them to be consumed by thoughts including, ‘what if I say the wrong thing?’, or ‘what if I am judged for what I’m buying?’, which stops them from going.

    Going to the shops isn’t the only thing that Social Anxiety Disorder can inhibit. A major problem with SAD in younger people is that it greatly affects their education, whether it’s that they just don’t attend, or attend but can’t concentrate enough to study, or any other way an individual might feel isolated in an educational setting. Van Ameringen, et al., (2003) found evidence that ‘young people with anxiety disorders, and perhaps especially social phobia, are at great risk for leaving school prematurely’. Further evidence of SAD affecting education is displayed in a study titled: ‘Much more than just shyness: the impact of social anxiety disorder on educational performance across the lifespan’. This study followed a cohort of individuals born in Sweden between 1st January 1973 and 31st December 1977, up until 31st December 2013. The observation found that ‘individuals with a diagnosis of SAD were significantly less likely to pass all subjects in the last year of compulsory education’, more specifically these individuals had ‘67%, 56% and 67% lower odds of passing the core subjects (Swedish, English, and mathematics, respectively)’, (Vilaplana-Pérez, et al., 2020). Furthermore, the observational study showed the greatest impairment on education level was finishing upper secondary school, with individuals with SAD having ‘81% lower odds of achieving this milestone’ (Vilaplana-Pérez, et al., 2020).

    However, it is not just in an academic sense that SAD affects education. In 2012, a study on the impact of social anxiety on student learning and well-being was conducted. Across 2 universities, 787 students completed an online survey related to three areas that are often used to assess social anxiety: performance fears, social interaction, and avoidance behaviour (Russell & Topham, 2012). The findings showed that ‘students believed their learning and performance in the classroom was affected by associated thought-blocking, excessive self-focused attention, and physical effects such as blushing and stammering’ (Russell & Topham, 2012). Alongside academic impact, SAD can affect education through social aspects. For example, one person has written: ‘The strain of all this [difficulty socialising with flatmates] had an effect on my university work. I become more and more stressed and found it increasingly hard to concentrate.’ (Max, 2015).

    The question is, what can we do to help?

    Treatment

    Medical:

    One main clinical treatment method for SAD is Psychotherapy.

    Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is thought to be the most effective psychotherapy for anxiety disorders. CBT is a type of talking therapy that helps you manage your problems by focussing on how your ‘thoughts, beliefs and attitudes affect your feelings and actions.’ (Mind, 2024). Essentially, CBT aims to change the way you think and behave.

    Within Education:

    This article has been about SAD in relation to education, so what can we do within education to help?

    One of the main things we can do is promote early detection. If we can detect social anxiety in its early stages, we may be able to better help someone through their struggles and educational journey to ‘beat’ the statistics. The best way of doing this is to educate school staff members, and even peers, on how to recognise Social Anxiety Disorder, so that when they come across it, or feel they themselves are struggling with it, they will be able to help.

    Another step to take is to facilitate referrals to appropriate and helpful mental health services. Although a lot of schools provide spaces where students can express their concerns and emotions, it is important that those struggling with SAD (and any other mental health condition) to be granted access to services that specialise in mental health conditions. For example, school staff could assist with booking GP appointments, and give any information they feel will help the GP understand what the individual is going through.

    The most important thing to remember, if you’re grappling with SAD, is that it can get better. With the right help you can achieve what sometimes feels impossible, even if that’s something as simple as getting out of bed in the morning.

    References

    Higuera, V. & Caplan, E., 2022. Social Anxiety Disorder Treatment Options. [Online]
    Available at: https://www.healthline.com/health/anxiety/social-anxiety-treatment
    [Accessed 21 October 2024].

    Kessler, R. et al., 2005. Lifetime prevalence and age-of-onset distributions’ of DSM-IV disorders in the national comorbidity survey replication. Archives of general psychiatry, June, 62(6), pp. 593-602.

    Max, 2015. Confronting my social anxiety at university. [Online]
    Available at: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/your-stories/confronting-my-social-anxiety-at-university/

    Mind, 2024. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). [Online]
    Available at: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/drugs-and-treatments/talking-therapy-and-counselling/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-cbt/
    [Accessed 21 October 2024].

    National Collaborating Centre for Mental Health, 2013. Social Anxiety Disorder. In: Social Anxiety DIsorder: Recognition, Assessment and Treatment. s.l.:The British Psychological society; The Royal College of Psychiatrists, pp. 15-27.

    NHS, 2023. Social anxiety (social phobia). [Online]
    Available at: https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/social-anxiety/

    Russell, G. & Topham, P., 2012. The impact of social anxiety on student learning and well-being in higher education. Journal of Mental Health, 21(4), pp. 375-385.

    Taryn, 2023. What social anxiety feels like for me. [Online]
    Available at: https://www.youngminds.org.uk/young-person/blog/what-social-anxiety-feels-like-for-me/

    Van Ameringen, M., Mancini, C. & Farvolden, P., 2003. The impact of anxiety disorders on educational achievement. Journal of Anxiety Disorders, 17(5), pp. 561-571.

    Vilaplana-Pérez, A. et al., 2020. Much more than just shyness: the impact of social anxiety disorder on educational performance across the lifespan. Psychological Medicine, 51(5), pp. 861-869.

  • Treating Social Anxiety.

    By Mohammed Adil Sethi, Content Team Academic.

    Introduction

    Millions of people throughout the United Kingdom suffer with social anxiety, something that is characterised by an overwhelming dread of social settings. It refers to a crippling fear of being scrutinised, or the feeling of being embarrassed, in front of other people, which then frequently results in avoidance tactics. According to research, social anxiety affects seven percent of people throughout the United Kingdom at some time in their life, therefore being among one of the most common mental health conditions. Since social anxiety severely lowers someone’s overall quality of life, restricting their social, intellectual, as well as professional choices, it is imperative to recognise and treat social anxiety. Society can lessen the stigma attached to social nervousness by increasing awareness, whilst giving encouragement, allowing those to get the care they need, and to be able to enjoy a more satisfying lifestyle (Budd, 2024).

    Causes of Social Anxiety

    A person’s social anxiety may result through a confluence of psychological, environmental, and hereditary factors. Given its genetic tendency for running in households, a component of inheritance may therefore be involved. Social anxiety may develop from a variety of environmental factors, including traumatizing social situations, an excessively circumspect or judgmental parenting approach, as well as an absence of social engagement. Social anxiety is frequently connected psychologically to factors including adverse behavioral patterns, excessive fear reactions, as well as inadequate self-worth. According to some cognitive-behavioral concepts, people who experience social anxiety can interpret social risks incorrectly, which causes them to experience excessive dread while avoiding social interactions (Kilford et al., 2024).

    Symptoms and Diagnosis

    Many symptoms, such as severe dread of social circumstances, an overactive concern with not being acknowledged in social settings, specific fears in relation to being rejected in social situations, are indicative during social anxiety. Emotional states are frequently accompanied by physical symptoms, including perspiration, shaking, fast pulse, nausea, and vertigo. In addition, those who are affected could find it challenging to communicate, to look someone in the eye, or to interact in social gatherings. Mental health practitioners usually use specific criteria found throughout the DSM-5 to diagnose social anxiety. Evaluation of the length and intensity of sensations is necessary for the evaluation, especially where the anxiety substantially impairs day-to-day functioning. To diagnose the prevalence and severity underlying social anxiety, therapists may employ cognitive examinations, self-reported information surveys, as well as controlled discussions (Mind UK, 2024).

    Impact on Daily Life

    Social anxiety has a major influence on day-to-day living, especially in interpersonal relationships. People find it difficult to keep up intimate relationships with acquaintances, relatives, and spouses, because they are afraid of other people, and worry about the consequences of being judged. Thoughts that they are isolated and alone may result from this. According to reports, forming and maintaining connections may be difficult for many people with social anxiousness, which can negatively impact their psychological state.

    Social anxiety may hamper one’s ability to function academically, and professionally, in both employment and school settings. Those impacted may refrain from taking part in talks, speeches, or collaborative tasks, which could impede their ability to advance in their careers, or further their studies. Physical health is also negatively impacted by persistent social anxiety. Long-term anxiety can cause digestive disorders, as well as migraines. Furthermore, social anxiety-related stress raises the possibility of cardiovascular diseases, raising the significance of promptly identifying and treating the disorder (Pavlova et al., 2024).

    Treatment and Management

    A mix of counselling, as well as self-help techniques, is used to manage social anxiety disorders. The best way includes Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which focuses on altering unfavourable thinking habits, and thinking processes connected to social anxiety. A characteristic of cognitive behavioural therapy, called Immersion Therapy, contributes to people approaching interactions with others more comfortably as time goes on, hence decreasing anxiety. Additional treatment options, which include mindfulness-based methods, can also help with anxiety management (Winter et al., 2023).

    Self-help techniques are essential for controlling anxiety about social situations. Deep breath exercises, confronting unfavourable ideas, easing oneself into social settings that one fears, leading an active existence, with consistent physical activity, along with an appropriate diet, are some important strategies. Attending workshops, or establishing community organisations, can assist with making a contribution to feeling more confident while minimising anxiety (Mechler et al., 2024).

    Coping Strategies

    Using routines that lessen anxieties, and foster resilience, is part of overcoming social anxiety. Developing a regimen that includes regular exercise, such as yoga or walking, might help lower stress levels. Regularly engaging in gradual muscle loosening, through exercise, or deep breathing practices, can also help to soothe the circulatory system. Keeping journals to monitor performance, as well as your emotional response to social situations, can yield valuable insights, whilst encouraging optimistic thinking. Having support networks is crucial for controlling social anxiety. It is simpler to handle social issues where there is psychological help and support from relatives, close companions, or from group therapy. Open communication about difficulties can improve bonds between people, as well as lessen sentiments of loneliness (Tse et al., 2023).

    Strategies for concentration and unwinding, such as meditating with imagery visualisation, is often quite effective in managing anxiety. Continuous meditation encourages a calm and collected mental sharpness. Mindfulness training helps people stay in the moment, along with reducing frequent overanalysing. Incorporating these routines in everyday situations promotes a more composed, balanced attitude toward personal relationships (Anxiety UK, 2024).

    Real-Life Stories

    Accounts from everyday life of people who have dealt with social anxiety, show the path from hardship to resiliency. A particular individual includes Ellie, an occupational therapist from London, who turned to CBT for assistance, after several years of social distancing. Ellie gained the ability to confront her unfavourable opinions, and she progressively exposed herself in the face of her fears, with the help provided by her psychotherapist. She now handles social situations with assurance, along with having now noticed positive changes throughout her career as a result (Zhang et al, 2024).

    Professional viewpoints stress how important it is to ask for assistance. Oxford University psychotherapist, Dr. Lucy Bowes, states that curing social anxiety requires prompt treatment. She emphasises ‘Helping Hands Networks’, along with treatments like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, can significantly enhance results. Famous psychotherapist, Professor Paul Gilbert, also emphasises the importance of compassion-focused treatment, in assisting people in growing towards oneself, compassion along with lowering the guilt that comes with anxiety about social situations. These illustrations, and professional opinions, show that anxiety concerning social situations management can be managed through the correct assistance (Masters, 2024).

    Conclusion

    A lot of individuals throughout the United Kingdom suffer from social anxiety, which is a prevalent but treatable ailment. It is triggered by a confluence of psychological, environmental, as well as hereditary variables. It can have a negative effect on one’s physical health, how we connect to others, along with job prospects. But there is help available, from effective therapies, including prescription drugs, self-help initiatives techniques, to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Actual situations, experiences, and professional opinions, serve as a reminder that people with social anxiety disorders may reclaim their everyday lives, along with feeling in possession of their condition, when they agree to receive help. It is critical for anyone suffering from anxiety about social situations to keep in mind that improvement is achievable. It is a significant move to seek treatment, whether from a therapist or from community support. Many people have effectively dealt with their nervousness, and have proved to be capable of doing so, even if the process can prove difficult. Rehab is achievable, so it is important to hold onto a positive attitude, as well as practice self-compassion. One can conquer anxiety about social settings, to maintain an even more connected, self-assured lifestyle, with ongoing patience and dedication.


    References

    Anxiety UK, (2024). Welcome to Anxiety UK. Viewed 10th August 2024. https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/

    Budd, R., 2024. Isomorphic tensions and anxiety in UK social science doctoral provision. Policy Reviews in Higher Education, 8(1), pp.7-28. https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/23322969.2023.2217512

    Masters, K., (2024). Gender, Psychiatry, and Social Anxiety. In Feminist and Anti-Psychiatry Perspectives on ‘Social Anxiety Disorder’ The Socially Anxious Woman (pp. 29-87). Cham: Springer International Publishing. https://scholar.google.com/scholar?as_ylo=2023&q=Social+Anxiety+in+uk&hl=en&as_sdt=0,5#d=gs_qabs&t=1723319953520&u=%23p%3DIM_CVOsstskJ

    Kilford, E.J., Foulkes, L. and Blakemore, S.J., (2024). Associations between age, social reward processing and social anxiety symptoms. Current Psychology, 43(5), pp.4305-4322. https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12144-023-04551-y

    Mind UK, (2024). Racism and mental health. Viewed 10th August 2024. https://www.mind.org.uk/

    Mechler, J., Lindqvist, K., Magnusson, K., Ringström, A., Krafman, J.D., Alvinzi, P., Kassius, L., Sowa, J., Andersson, G. and Carlbring, P., (2024). Guided and unguided internet-delivered psychodynamic therapy for social anxiety disorder: A randomized controlled trial. Npj Mental Health Research, 3(1), p.21. https://www.nature.com/articles/s44184-024-00063-0

    Pavlova, B., Warnock-Parkes, E., Alda, M., Uher, R. and Clark, D.M., (2024). Cognitive behavioral therapy for social anxiety disorder in people with bipolar disorder: a case series. International Journal of Bipolar Disorders, 12(1), p.1. https://journalbipolardisorders.springeropen.com/articles/10.1186/s40345-023-00321-8

    Tse, Z.W.M., Emad, S., Hasan, M.K., Papathanasiou, I.V., Rehman, I.U. and Lee, K.Y., (2023). School-based cognitive-behavioral therapy for children and adolescents with social anxiety disorder and social anxiety symptoms: A systematic review. Plos one, 18(3), p.e0283329. https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0283329

    Winter, H.R., Norton, A.R., Burley, J.L. and Wootton, B.M., (2023). Remote cognitive behavior therapy for social anxiety disorder: a meta-analysis. Journal of Anxiety Disorders, p.102787. https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&as_ylo=2023&q=Social+Anxiety+and+CBT+in+uk&btnG=#d=gs_qabs&t=1723320440357&u=%23p%3DfJJl2jtS1cIJ

    Zhang, J., Bakhir, N.B.M., Han, H. and Xu, Y., (2024). Quantitative And Qualitative Analysis Of Social Anxiety Disorder Treatment Methods: A Bibliometric Approach From The Perspective Of Cognitive Behavioral Theory. Educational Administration: Theory and Practice, 30(4), pp.190-202. https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&as_ylo=2023&q=Social+Anxiety+and+CBT+in+uk&btnG=#d=gs_qabs&t=1723320506126&u=%23p%3Dj5zcDiRLL4gJ

  • Social Rejection

    By Chaima Kenache, Content Team Contributor

    For many young people anxiety is the byproduct of wanting to ‘fit in’ socially with others. Whether consciously or unconsciously, many of us have this innate desire to please or seem appealing to others. But why is this? Socially, why do the opinions of others, even strangers, mean so much?  The rise of social media platforms has exacerbated feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt within our population. A report by the ‘Pew Research Center’ revealed that 72% of young adults aged 18 to 29 use Instagram, with a significant portion of their time spent comparing themselves to others. Witnessing peer’s post their ‘perfect’ lives whilst garnering success and attention, may magnify our own insecurities and ignite this inferiority-complex where we see the need to compete and adjust our lives for the camera’s approval.

    Social media can encourage individuals to hide behind a false version of themselves, to fit in with the ideal, even though for the most time, their ‘role models’ are faking as well, creating an endless cycle of self-doubt and anxiety of meeting the standard. In addition, the curated and glamorised nature of social media often presents an idealised version of reality, fostering unrealistic standards of beauty, success, and popularity. Consequently, individuals may experience heightened anxiety as they strive to measure up to these unattainable ideals, perpetuating a cycle of insecurity and dissatisfaction about themselves and their external image. 

    School environments can also further reinforce feelings of anxiety and self-consciousness within individuals. An example of this is the teacher asking students to get into non-selected groups or pairs for an activity or project. This often can create a lot of fear and anxiety for those who do not recognise anyone in that specific class or environment. The fear of speaking up and getting rejected in front of those who you do not know very well can channel feelings of embarrassment, irritation and ultimately anxiety. In that brief, fleeting moment after the teacher has asked there class to get into groups, an individual needs to make a choice, either get up and ask to join a group and hope they say yes in order to avoid looking ‘lonely’ when everyone else inevitably finds a group or to stand their quietly hoping that no one has realised you’re working alone. As a student myself, a lot of the time the second option seems like the easier, safer option, yet by doing this, we are encouraging the avoidant behaviour , therefore increasing the likelihood of repetition in the future. This is because, in this scenario the joy of avoiding social rejection can act as a reward, so as a result we continue not asking to join to avoid feeling those negatively associated emotions of rejection and anxiety. (negative reinforcement)

    Asking to join someone’s group can seem like the end of the world when internal morale is low, an individual may find it hard to remember that they’re not being attacked nor judged in this situation.

    This same sort of fear is seen throughout the school experience, it could be a student not raising their hand in class, despite them knowing the correct answer or really struggling to understand something the teacher is explaining, it could be students behaving in a more disruptive and outlandish way to ‘impress’ and fit in with the ‘popular’ kids, it could be a student feeling insecure about the way they dress or a mark or disability. These are all different, individual scenarios, yet they all centre on one thing: The social approval of others and the fear of being rejected for being different, According to a study published in the ‘Journal of Abnormal Psychology’ researchers found that the fear of social rejection and the desire for social acceptance are significant predictors of anxiety disorders among young adults. The study, which surveyed over 1,000 participants, highlighted the detrimental effects of feeling disconnected or ostracised from social groups, such as not having a group to work with for a school activity/project. 

    There are ways to avoid feeling the pressure to conform to social norms and ‘fit’ in with the rest. First and most importantly, having a good healthy relationship with yourself elevates you and helps you to put situations into an honest perspective- instead of catastrophising the pressure of reaching out and speaking to those you don’t know, having good self-esteem and confidence within yourself helps you to feel more comfortable talking to other people, since you’re not looking for any sort of social approval and therefore social rejection doesn’t faze you nearly in the same way.

    Moreover, seeking out like-minded individuals or communities where we can feel accepted and valued can provide a supportive social network. These individuals can be found in family members, teachers, clubs or in finding a good branch (if we do not already have that) of friends whose morals align with ours, allowing us to be ourselves unapologetically. Engaging in open and honest communication with others and expressing feelings of insecurity or exclusion can also help bridge social divides and foster empathy and understanding. Finally, practising self-compassion and acknowledging that feelings of not fitting in are common and transient can help individuals navigate through moments of uncertainty with greater resilience and perspective.

  • Anxiety, Emetophobia, and the Isolation that Accompanies it

    Amy Moore, Content Team Contributor

    Emetophobia is defined as “the extreme fear of vomiting” and it is something I have been learning to cope with since I was twelve years old. Yet, it wasn’t until I was eighteen that I found out it was something that many people struggle with. 

    It’s important to realise that panic attacks can come in all different forms. For so long, I felt like a fraud because my own panic attacks did not mimic those that I had seen in the media, where someone would struggle to breathe or would seemingly become unaware of their surroundings. My panic attacks always began with sudden extreme nausea and would end up with me physically vomiting. If anything, I became far too aware of my surroundings and always felt the need to get out of whatever situation I was in. I know now that this was the start of my avoidance behaviour towards anything that I believed would provoke my anxiety, but at the time, I thought I was being rational and responsible in thinking that no one would want me there because I couldn’t control my anxiety.  

    I became so terrified of having a panic attack and being sick that I missed so much of my life – most days I couldn’t force myself to go to school, I stopped seeing my friends, and on my worst days, it was a struggle to even leave the house. I could barely eat because I was so worried about being sick, and it was difficult just to sit in a room with other people; I would spend my time planning how I would leave if I suddenly felt nauseous. It was debilitating. I was twelve years old and I felt like my life would be like this forever. Very quickly, it became a cycle that I couldn’t get out of: I’d wake up, feel sick, be sick, end up not eating which only made me feel more ill, and spend the day at home dwelling on how awful I felt. Panic attacks were so common that it was as if I had scheduled my whole life around them. I stopped doing absolutely everything because this fear had such tight control over me. Above all, I felt so lonely because I pushed everyone away. I didn’t want anyone to see me. 

    For anyone who is struggling through something similar to this, I want to tell you that you’re not alone. Anxiety can be so incredibly isolating, especially when you feel so ill that all you want to do is hide. But, there are people nearby who will be willing to listen and help you through it on the days when the most simple things just feel impossible. If you need to talk to somebody, you can call the No Panic helpline on 0300 7729844, open every day between 10am and 10pm. I want you to know that you can get through it. It also does not matter how long it takes you. Every single day is a new day to try again. It might feel like it will never get better, that you’ll be stuck here forever, but things do get easier – I know that from experience. 

    To try and break the isolation I had put myself in, I had to start with small things, like going out on a walk with someone. At the start, it was so difficult, but I found that being outdoors really helped me to feel less trapped and walking meant that I could focus on something other than how sick I felt. I realised that I needed distractions to stop me from thinking about how anxious I was and to stop hyper-focusing on every single sensation in my body. I needed to get out of my head and back into the world, one small step at a time. I also found that putting time limits on things helped, saying that I had to be home at a certain time so that I knew exactly how long I would be socialising for. It increased my confidence so much that I really started to enjoy seeing people again, something that at one point in my life, I thought was impossible.  

    Emetophobia used to be something that felt like it controlled everything I did. Now, it’s more of a passing thought that I can cope with because I have realised that the happiness I have when I am socialising and seeing my friends is worth far more than the fear and anxiety surrounding being sick. That’s not to say that every day is easy, far from it, but I have chosen to take it one day at a time, which I find makes it much more manageable. 

    To anyone who is reading this, I hope this has given you the hope that things can get better. It just has to start with you. No one else has any control over you getting your life back. People will support you on the journey there, but you have to be the one leading the way. That may seem utterly terrifying, but it is truly liberating. You can go at your own pace, in your own time, and eventually, you may be exactly where you want to be.  

  • Anxiety in the Christmas Season

    by Chaima Kenache, Content Team Contributor

    Holidays have always been displayed as a time of joy and connection, whether that’s through advertisements or newsletters. It is clear that Christmas is supposed to be an enjoyed and an untroubled time for everybody who celebrates. Despite this, Christmas can often bring a unique set of tests and anxieties for individuals to overcome, this is often neglected by social media. These anxieties often rely on the unspoken societal expectations for perfection and the desire to create the perfect festive atmosphere for loved ones even when we may not have the means to do so financially. The overwhelming expectation of having an abundance of food and a beautifully decorated home is simply unachievable for some struggling with money matters. However, this can still leave Individuals feeling worthless and inferior to other’s for not being able to cope with the idealized and ‘perfect’ version of Christmas celebrations. Despite 1 in 4 Britons experiencing anxiety (or depression) during Christmas, this issue is not universally acknowledged. The pressure to afford extravagant gifts, decorate elaborately, and partake in costly activities reinforces the notion that anxiety over these “luxuries” is not the norm regardless of the amount of people struggling.  

    Christmas is the most celebrated holiday globally so family gatherings and festivities in large groups are not only common but also expected. For those dealing with social anxiety, these events can be sources of immense stress. The fear of judgement, pressure to engage in small talk, and the discomfort of large crowds can turn what should be an enjoyable occasion into anxiety- inducing experiences. Once again, a large portion of feeling social anxiety during this period stems from this unrealistic expectation of perfection. You can feel anxiety over your ability to have good organization and planning skills (if you’re hosting) simultaneously whilst keeping an open mind to meeting new people and attending large scale events which for those struggling can be extremely difficult.  Many people suffering from social anxiety feel as though they must ‘step out of their comfort zone’ and although this could be beneficial, it shouldn’t be forced upon them. Moreover, those suffering should not feel pressured by societal expectations or norms to behave in a way that is uncomfortable just to ‘blend or fit in’ with the rest as to not stand out and be different.   

    However, there are ways to try and limit the amount of anxiety those may feel during the holiday period. To mitigate holiday anxiety, practicing self-care is crucial. Setting realistic expectations and acknowledging the unattainability of perfection can alleviate pressure.  Prioritizing activities like proper sleep, taking breaks when overwhelmed, and practicing mindfulness exercises helps manage tension and anxiety. Budgeting and setting financial limits on materialistic aspects, such as gifts, are essential for maintaining lower stress levels. Clear communication and setting boundaries with friends and family contribute to a more manageable and enjoyable season.  

    In conclusion, to uphold Christmas as a time of joy and connection for everyone, it is vital to recognise and address the tribulations and anxieties associated with it. By preserving in the face of anxiety and resisting societal pressures for perfection, we can foster a more inclusive and fulfilling holiday season as a community.  

  • Five Tips to Overcome Feelings of Anxiety During the Festive Season

    By Ruth Cooper-Dickson, No Panic patron

    In some of my past articles for No Panic, I have shared how you can navigate feelings of anxiety when attending work socials or networking events. 

    With the festive season upon us, filled with after work drinks, family gatherings, and Christmas parties, these feelings may be at an all-time high. So, what better time to follow up with some tips that you might find useful to adopt when meeting up with family or friends.

    1. Practice with boundaries 

    Being around family that we may not see throughout the rest of the year can create anxiety. Isn’t it strange that we are expected to get on so well with these people, despite only meeting up once a year or so? You might have a very different lifestyle to your family or find that they share very different views about the world – with even the smallest things ignitingdisagreements and arguments or even just heated discussion. 

    There is also almost always that family member who has no filter and will openly ask you in front of everyone “when will you meet someone?”, “you have put on weight”, “when will you be having children?”, “how do you make any money in your job?” … I think we all know the relative or guest I am talking about. Before you meet up at family events, practice your responses and plan how you will handle the situation if it feels triggering for you. 

    Protecting your boundaries can sound like:

    ​•​My reasons are personal, and I don’t have to explain them to you.

    ​•​I have my reasons.

    ​•​I’m not obligated to explain myself to you.

    ​•​I prefer not to say.

    By doing this you can take the control of the situation. You will appear confident and hopefully shut the conversation down before it goes any further. 

    2. Take a break if you need one 

    We all need to take ten minutes away from everyone else sometimes – that’s natural. Whether it’s the relative starting to nit-pick on all your life decisions, or the idea of being around a lot of noisy people, these situations can quickly start to feel intense and overwhelming. Which is why tip two is to grab a bathroom break if you need five minutes. Run your wrists under the cold-water tap. Take some breaths and give yourself time. If you need longer, get out of the house; offer to pop to the shop to pick up something that is needed, take the dog for a walk, or simply go outside and stand in the garden. 

    3. Ask for support

    If you know you are likely to struggle with your anxietyduring the festive season, then try and speak to someone who understands. If it gets too much, they can be that wing person on the day looking out for you. You could even set a signal between the two of your, indicating that if you say or do something, they will know that you are struggling. There is no shame in this, and it can help you feel more secure knowing that you have someone in your corner who is looking out for you. 

    4. Mindful drinking 

    Alcohol and anxiety are never a good mix. If you do drink alcohol, be aware of how this affects you and how much you are drinking. Although alcohol feels at the time like it is helping you, by reducing your worries and taking your mind off your troubles, on the whole alcohol has a negative impact on your mind and body. It can also add fuel to the fire for family arguments and outbursts, which is not helpful when considering the increased anxiety the next day. If you know that alcohol will cause issues for you, come up with strategies to either drink mindfully or stay sober at the event. Swap out alcoholic drinks for low or no alcohol options, or offer to be the designated driver for the evening. Have an excuse ready if you need one for leaving the event and driving home. 

    5.    Make time for you

    Once the day itself has passed and you are back home, it’s important to self-soothe and regulate your nervous systemaway from those feelings of anxiety. If it was a loud event, try to be quiet and relaxed. You could take a bath or a long shower, put on your comfy safe clothes, and sit on the couch – or get in bed with a book. 

    Feeling overstimulated can make you feel tired. Try to ensure you regulate yourself after an intense event to dissipate all the stress hormones. If it was a festive event that you weren’t particularly wanting to attend but felt you had to go, congratulate yourself on getting through it, and try not to overthink the event while recognising that next time it will feel a little easier. 

    I hope you find these tips useful to navigate the holiday season – and most of all, I hope that you have a restful Christmas.

    Remember, many people occasionally worry about social situations, but some of us can feel overly worried, before, during and after them. This can be social anxiety or social phobia, which is a long term and overwhelming fear of social situations. If you feel that your social anxiety is affecting your everyday activities, self-confidence, relationships, work, or school life, it is important you speak to someone to get help and support. 

    You can call the No Panic helpline on 0300 7729844 every day between 10am and 10pm, or speak to your GP. Social anxiety is a common problem that you shouldn’t have to suffer alone. Your GP will be able to put you at ease and share treatments that might help you deal with the symptoms you experience.

  • My Experience Living with Social Anxiety

    Caroline Slack, Mindless Mag

    When it started

    I was diagnosed with social anxiety about three years ago, up until then I just thought I was shy. I was having issues adjusting to a new work environment, panicking about having to speak to my manager and worrying about how my new colleagues saw me. It wasn’t my first job, and I had been like that in every job, so I just thought it was me. I didn’t know at the time that there was an issue, that it wasn’t normal. What prompted me to get help was the physical symptoms. I had been waking up with the shakes for quite a few months and I was worried that it was the start of diabetes. It made sense since my mum is also diabetic, so I took her advice and spoke to my GP. The conversation didn’t quite go the way I had expected, instead of asking me about my diet and my sugar intake, he asked me about my moods, my feelings, and whether I had thoughts of hurting myself. To say I was surprised would be an understatement! It was due to that discussion that I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder and Depression, put on medication, referred to mental health and well-being services as part of the NHS and signed off from work for two weeks.

    SilverCloud

    During my two weeks off I had regular mental health check-ins with my GP, I was assigned a well-being support worker and I found myself on an app called SilverCloud. The SilverCloud service is an online service which acts like a mood diary so you can keep track of your moods, and events that are happening. I found it useful as I wasn’t quite sure what was triggering my anxiety. A feature that SilverCloud has is that you can choose which things you share with an allocated professional who then looks over what you’ve shared and sends you weekly comments. It was through sharing my mood diary entries that I was asked if I could have social anxiety. My initial thought was “what is that?” So, off to Google, I went. Reading over the symptoms, I remember feeling a sense of understanding wash over me. Situations I had avoided for years because they made me uncomfortable, but I didn’t know why, suddenly it all made sense. After telling the lady on SilverCloud, that maybe she was right I found myself referred to yet another service, Improving Access to Psychological Therapies (IAMPT). 

    IAMPT

    IAMPT or as it is now known, The NHS Talking Therapies, for anxiety and depression programmeis a service set up to help people access the help they need. In my case, it was determined after another discussion with the mental health and wellbeing service that I would benefit from one-to-one counselling, with a therapist. Due to my triggers being what they were, I was offered the choice of in-person sessions or online sessions given the services secure online messaging service. I chose the latter. Within a week I found myself in my first session. I was allocated a total of eight one-hour long sessions which focused on managing my anxiety and getting myself comfortable doing things that I would have been uncomfortable doing before. Like going shopping on my own, eating in a restaurant on my own and even things as small as wearing a dress in public. It seems like a lot to pack into eight sessions, right? In truth, it was, the technique my therapist introduced me to was something called Exposure Therapy. This involved me making a list of the ten worst situations for me and rating them from one to ten, then working my way down the list from one being the easiest and ten being the hardest. For me number one was shopping on my own, I could do it if I had to, but I wasn’t jumping at the opportunity and number ten was wearing a dress in public. After my eighth, and last session, I took myself into town on a busy Saturday afternoon and sat in my dress and had coffee all on my own with the biggest grin on my face!

    The future

    If I had to say what therapy did for me, it was to encourage the natural stubbornness within me. Instead of shying away and hiding from situations I think I can’t deal with or things I don’t think I can do, I throw myself into them to prove to myself I can do it. It was difficult at first but the more I do it, the more I experience it, the easier it gets. Am I cured? No, I don’t think so. There are still times when I get nervous and I still find it hard to be in a shop during the Christmas rush, but instead of me finding myself in a panic, now I just feel annoyed that it’s busy which I think is pretty normal. Thanks to the CBT therapy combined with my medication that I still take regularly, I now feel like I can live a decent quality of life. I now feel free to discover who I am as a person without the huge storm cloud hanging over my head.

    I share my story in the hopes that it helps others to understand that they’re not alone and help others know that there is help out there and it may only be a phone call away.